It’s very easy to say you care, and even to look like you care. It’s much more difficult to actually do it. Sincerely caring about others isn’t just a matter of being nice and agreeable. In fact, when you truly care you often must disagree, even if it would be much easier to just be nice.
There are times when the most loving and compassionate thing you can say is no. There are times when the most respectful and considerate response is to disagree. Challenging people to do their best is much more empowering than letting them get by with halfhearted efforts.
Helping people to become self sufficient is much more generous than letting them become dependent on your generosity, though it is also much more difficult. Sometimes the most helpful thing you can do for someone is to hold that person accountable. One of the most valuable things you can give to another person is the opportunity, difficult as it may be, to grow stronger, more capable and more dependable. The world cries out for caring people, yet merely being nice and generous is not enough. Care enough to respect, to positively challenge, to insist on nothing less than the best, and permanently raise those you care about to a higher level of living..
— Ralph Marston (Quoted)